@Candih ,
Great to know at least there are no other potential suitors in the mix here - that would make things complicated.
Now, as fortune tellers, I see it as part of our job to find solutions for requesters, than just divining the future.
However....wow...your boyfriend is a tough one to crack.
He is so unromantic that I can't find a good time window for him to take action naturally before 2028.
There are of course, small pockets of stronger metal elements in the months, but those effects are quite small, so I don't feel confident relying on those.
It is more likely you get a better than average date with him during those small pockets, than an actual wedding ceremony/proposal.
So, seems like we can't rely on the 1/3 destiny part - we gotta take matters into our own hands.
Let's analyse from Ten Gods perspective:
- Your boyfriend is very, very strong in output element EG (5 out of 8 elements on natal chart!). He is the kind who does what comes to his mind, and ignores rules and authorities. He has controlling elements (Ren and Zi water) in his chart, but they are completely squashed by his output elements.
- Because he doesn't play well with rules, forcing him into doing things that don't align with what he wants will not yield positive outcomes.
- He is so strong in output that he does not even gets angry fighting back rules - Likely he just flats out ignores them and does what he wants.
- We established he is not romantic at all, so doing acts of love is unnatural to him.
- So if you force/demand him to perform these acts of love, he will get more and more unhappy.
How then, can we use what we have to improve the situation? My solution:
- Output element grows wealth element. Wealth element is what we need here.
- We need to channel his overly strong output element and create wealth element.
- You will need to do a bit of "mental taichi" here and redirect his output into the love language you want. i.e., a bit of mind games to make him think that the actions he is pursing is his own ideas, but the outcome is what you seek.
- Avoid being confrontational, instructional, or demanding. Those scenarios are rule-based, and he respond poorly to it.
Is it a sly approach? Yes, kind of.
But destiny is working against him here, so he needs to take action.
But if he is not aware of the actions required and takes poorly to instructions, so we have guide his actions instead.
It will be a tad more tiring on your end cause you still have to shoulder the effort to guide, and also speed is not as quick as being able to take instructions.
But once you get the hang of directing his output energy correctly, relationship should improve.
You can play with Feng Shui too, but that is beyond my proficiency.
Feng Shui is my least favored approach because I am not well-versed in the area of auspicious items.
Rearranging the house for better Feng Shui is also sometimes not possible for the people - renovations are fixed already, other occupants are unwilling to change, etc.
Hence it is the last thing I would try, but that is your choice.
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