@coldpillow Thanks for your insights. Just to clarify, things are okay between me and my partner (we’re not legally married, but we've been together since 2011 and have a child together). The issues are more with his side of the family - mostly his mom and older brother.

@ren
I currently work remotely as an operations specialist, and I also teach language on the side. We had our child in 2012. Again, no major problems between us; it’s just some tension with his family.

I doubt it, but still hoping he does!

Here you go:
May 24, 1991
11:50am

I'm incredibly grateful to @aeronrel for taking the time to share such deep and thoughtful insights about my chart. His reading has stayed with me; and honestly, it's been spot-on so far.

As 2024 has unfolded, things have shifted just as he described. Financially, there's finally been a turning point, and work has started to feel a little more stable this year (2025). But on the flip side, relationships have taken a hit, and it’s pushed me to seriously consider making a big move with my family - possibly far from where we are now.

If anyone feels called to chime in, I'd love to hear your thoughts on my current pillar and any guidance you think might be helpful as I navigate this next chapter.

Here are my details:
Birthday: May 18, 1993
Gender: Female
Birth place: Quezon City, Philippines
Birth time: 7:20AM

Thank you very much.

@aeonrel

You're amazing! Thank you so much for putting in the time.
Yes, even with the change the excessive deliberation (and rumination) still holds true.

Confirming a few other things

Do you experience people taking advantage of your money / time / efforts throughout your life?
Or do you feel that you spend more money / time / efforts on others than you need to?

Yes and yes. I'm a giver and this can be somehow attributed to my people-pleasing habit. Not that I see this as a bad thing (especially for the people I love), but lately I feel that I've been running myself dry. It's a little embarrassing to say... I have pent-up resentment 

Potentially poor luck with people/customers during freelancing?

You hit the spot. I've had a few and they're all walking red flags. I was just so desperate to get clients during that time.

Potential problem with people affecting your output/expression - did you experience something like this last year?

Expression is definitely suppressed, actually been like that for a decade now I don't really want to blame others for my lack but it seems in my chart I've got power struggles...?

So... it's gonna be one hell of a mental ride for me huh. Thanks for the heads-up, I need to start working on it ASAP.

You are a strong DM.
Therapy is a form of treatment, and treatment is under support star coverage.
Strong DM needs to shed energy instead of getting more support.

Totally agree with this. As far as I could remember, I used to be a person who's fueled by challenge and competition. I was an achiever back then, but things went south after what happened... Sorry, I'm not ready to share yet.

Anyhow, after that I've gone easy with myself and became mild... that's probably how I started people-pleasing. I was afraid of offending people and so I had to dampen my fire. You're right; this is in the past, and I should stop nursing what's already a scar and get back out there in the game. Thank you for this reminder.

So wood is my favorable element? You said I'm a strong DM, could it be possible that I'm also okay with Metal and Water?
I guess with what you said, my life isn't meant to traverse the path of least resistance  But it all makes sense now. I'm capable and this is what I'm meant to do. Amor fati.

You don't know how much you've helped me. Thank you so much. 

@aeonrel

Thank you so much for your insights. Your advice truly made sense. I'm a thinker, or should I say, a worrier. Always making sure I do everything right and dread mistakes.

Btw, by support star, you mean resource? Sorry, I'm quite new to bazi.

You're right; last year was a mess.
Tried my hand at freelancing but it affected my full-time work. Didn't know that carving your own path is this hard, so I was disheartened and got stuck in the valley of despair.

I am fully aware that I am the only one standing in my way. When I try to change or take action, I always fall back to my bad habits and thus failed in materializing so many personal projects because I am always waiting for the inspiration aka "muse" to come  and when I try to create something, the taste gap always ruins it for me. So I always give up before anything bears fruit. I hate myself for procrastinating. It feels like this is my body / mind's response at the first sight of challenge or stress.

A few questions:
- Should I seek therapy?   
- What about the next pillar? I see metal and I think this is my output star? Will this be a busy time for me?
- What do you think are my strengths and which industry do you think I'd thrive?

Again, I appreciate you helping me on this matter. I've got no mentor nor guiding people in my life, so your reading will mean the world to me. <3