Appreciate help with my bazi chart

[Sadsagi]

Hi, will appreciate help with my bazi chart. It has been quite tough for the past few years, especially from 2020-2023 with personal crisis, lawsuits and xiao ren. I just started picking up myself this year and trying to stay optimistic. I do intend to continue living so I started reading up on bazi, hopefully to shed some light how to improve myself and what to avoid.

Below is my bazi (time, day, month, year with 癸巳 as my daymaster)

庚 癸 壬 丁
申 巳 子 卯

Will appreciate if I could get some guidance on which area of career I should go for (currently unemployed and doing day trading to sustain.) And what should I look out for or avoid in the future?
Thank you!

[JLim (Darma W)]

Hi Sadsagi.  Please give also the birth date, time and city

[Sadsagi]

Hi JLim, thank you for the reply.

Birth date: 10 Dec 1987
Birth time: 1545
Country: Singapore
Gender: Female

[TaiYin]

2020-2023 with personal crisis, lawsuits and xiao ren.

Hi, is this in relation to marriage lawsuits?

[Sadsagi]

2020-2023 with personal crisis, lawsuits and xiao ren.

Hi, is this in relation to marriage lawsuits?

Hi TaiYin, yes related to marriage. (Divorce and another one initiated by ex to silence me)

[JLim (Darma W)]

H  D  M  Y
己 癸 壬 丁       Ji   Gui   Ren  Ding
未 巳 子 卯      Wei   Si    Zi    Mao

Hi Sadsagi,

The way I plot the chart is like above, because we use solar time adjustment.  After adjusted, you were born at 14:48, which is Wei hour. 

The hour clearly shows the Xiao Ren (petty people), because Ji Wei represents Seven Killings (Officer).
With the Geng Shen hour, there is no Seven Killings (Officer) in your chart.
Well, we need to analyze further when Seven Killings is bad and when it's not. 

Your LP Yi Mao (Apr 2016-Apr 2026) led to some problems with Seven Killings.

[Sadsagi]

Thank you so much Master @JLim.

Never knew I got seven killings until today, probably also explain why it has been so difficult for the past few years in quite a number of aspects of my life.

I realised based on your mangpai method, seven killings is sitting on death emptiness at the time pillar?

If I just focus on myself (career & wealth) instead of having any hopes about love and having any children, will it be better?
(Also doesn’t feel like I have any good “connections” with my immediate family regardless of how amicable I am or what I did for them.)

[Goldman]

Hi Sadsagi

I believe you are born into a good middle class family but the family fortune unfortunately declined.
From age 20-30 is a very bad 10 years period - involving your husband, you and family planning.
From age 30-40, by right, at the beginning looks like turning for the better but then gone south.
Your husband is very privilege and wealthy. 2022's 2nd half of the year should be most devasting for you.

My advice is that:

1) Yourself is a bless person, you shouldn't end up do jail time/ bankrupt.
2) Your peers are also your lucky stars but they expect a lot from you before they can help you.
3) There will be people offering help to shrug you off dire situation, but you probably wont be grateful as wlell.
4) You may feel lonely at times, but it wouldn't bother you.
Should there be divorce, your alimony should be favorable.
5) There should still be very eligible spousal candidates for you, till age 45.
6) 2025 should be a year to look forward to.

You should think about your future beyond. May I know what qualification / job experience do you have?

Best,
Goldman

[Sadsagi]

Hi @Goldman, thank you so much for your advice and help.

Well, I do hope the future will be better than before.

Yes, age 20-30 has been a terrible 10 years period. (I was also in poor health.)
Ex husband was in debts when I met him, but we managed to sort out his finances by the time we decided to get married. (He became quite wealthy 2 years into the marriage.)

2022 was devastating, I was prepared to go to court to defend myself over a frivolous lawsuit initiated by ex and the third party to intimidate & silence me over their boss-subordinate affair. But thankfully, a gui ren intervene and the case was withdrawn. A huge amount of money was spent on lawyer fees, leaving me in quite a bad financial state. 

I have difficulties trying to trust peers/friends after this episode. (I got backstabbed and extorted money by a 'friend' whom I thought was helping me during this difficult period.) Some of them were mocking at me saying I do not have the kind of life to enjoy the wealth after ex got successful and left me for another woman.

Really good to know I am a blessed person. Life has been rather depressing.

I have a Economics & finance degree (honours) but no job experience. I do have some experience managing finances/investments of ex's in the past.

Will appreciate if you could advise me what kind of career is suitable? I am currently looking out for job opportunities especially in wealth management area. 

Regarding point 5, will my next marriage (if there's another one) end up in divorce again?

[Goldman]

Hi Sadsagi

My best advice for you is - moving forward - Segregate the Tangibles with your significant other.
Draw a firm line. Your assets belongs to you, his assets belongs to him.

You have the ability to make a man rich. I'm happy for you that your Ex-husband goy rich with your help.
I believe in Karma - he left rich with your help. You had paid your debts. Otherwise, its not done yet.
There could be other SO entering your life, and you will be inclined to help as before. That's all good, help him but draw the line firmly.

I think you have a craft with managing finances/investments and you can stick to that for now, till 45 years old.

Best,
Goldman

[Sadsagi]

Hi @Goldman , thank you for your time and reply. Really appreciate that.

Good to hear that I have repaid my debts.

Will bear in mind and always remind myself to draw a firm line for assets with my significant one in the future.

And will continue to look for opportunities in the direction of wealth management.

You make me see some hope for my future hope to excel in my career and meet someone who will appreciate and treasure me.

Thank you!

[Gmuli]

Hi.
Would recommend to get surrounded by poor but honest friends. Then there may be tendency to think about them in not very good ways, if you manage to resist that chart should balance, if I'm reading it right.

Religion and some philosophy communities can do the job, sometimes. Sometimes art, depends on country and surrounding.

[Sadsagi]

Hi.
Would recommend to get surrounded by poor but honest friends. Then there may be tendency to think about them in not very good ways, if you manage to resist that chart should balance, if I'm reading it right.

Religion and some philosophy communities can do the job, sometimes. Sometimes art, depends on country and surrounding.

Hi @Gmuli ,

Thank you for your time and advice.

I do mix with a variety of friends. However, I don’t feel I have much “luck” with friends. (Probably I am not good at detecting who I should be close to or wary of until something happen. I also do have quite a number of jealous “friends”)
Currently, I don’t socialise much. Will bear in mind your advice.

I do have an interest in art, however, the country I am in unfortunately doesn’t seem to be conducive for it.

[Gmuli]

I do mix with a variety of friends. However, I don’t feel I have much “luck” with friends. (Probably I am not good at detecting who I should be close to or wary of until something happen. I also do have quite a number of jealous “friends”)
Currently, I don’t socialise much.

I think I understand. Its all good, may be possible to align it back with choices.  I can explain in detail if you want, sometimes can help. Some of these stuff is very easy to fix, there is usually some 'learning' idea in the middle, ones one understand it the rest becomes easier and with time much nicer. : )

[Sadsagi]

Hi @Gmuli, thank you for your time and reply.

Yes please, will appreciate if you could spend some time to explain to me in details.

I recently realised one of my close friends moral values don’t quite align with me (she is a third party in a relationship with her bf and doesn’t think she is wrong). It’s hard to carry on such friendship with her, yet it’s also hard to break it off. I also feel she seems “happy” that I lost an apartment and keeps trying to find out if there are any rich men chasing me.

So now, I just focus on myself to earn back my previous lifestyle and don’t socialise much.