Want to know about my life in terms of romance and career

[rontron5k]

February 2, 1987 16:59, Male.

Lately, I have have been dating a girl twice in the first half of August 2023 but seems like lately she is avoiding me when I directly ask her when she is free, we still talk through text message but I don’t really know what her intentions are.

Also work as been an extra pain this month.

Want to know what the masters see in my chart for the rest of this year in romance and career. Chart is attached too for convenience! Much thanks my morale is very low lately.

[aeonrel]

Place /city of birth, pls! 
Need it for solar time adjustment to check if chart is correct.

[rontron5k]

Place /city of birth, pls! 
Need it for solar time adjustment to check if chart is correct.

Hong Kong, China

[aeonrel]

From love perspective, I don't see any particular increase or decrease in love luck in August, nor for the rest of 2023.
You need fire for love, and the rest of the months are a mixture of metal, water, wood and earth only.

Work pain I would reason it is the effect of Geng Shen in month of August.
Shen clashes with the Mao in EB of annual pillar.
Mao is your output element - its suppression leads to you feeling frustrated and constrained.
This will continue to Sept (You clash with Mao), and Oct (Xu combine with Mao).
It should go away after the starting of Nov.

Regarding love:
You have an inherent Bing-Xin combination in your natal chart, and in this luck pillar there is a Si-Shen combination.
Fire is your love luck and metal is your resource luck.
On how to interpret your resource element decreasing your love luck - I do not have deep enough understanding of the Ten Gods to explain yet.
Because if we can understand that, we will be able to identify what is the characteristic flaw and change it.
But for now, I am still learning.
If you have any guess, maybe you can share and we can see if it makes sense to the chart.

[Gmuli]

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[aeonrel]

@Gmuli

I think in this case Resource may be his mother or knowledge(usually both, depending if his mother is around).
So like staying in comfort zone, coz what he knows makes him want to play it safe.
While at the same time his mother may not have been too enthusiastic for more risky, expanding inner ideas(Wu fire), so that left a trace.

You are right!
I totally forgot to consider mother and knowledge...
I need to practice more... 

[Gmuli]

Its difficult for us, forumers, because without inflection there is no way to be sure if its sarcasm or not.
But if it isn't - it seems its always knowledge, whatever happens. One of the good sites is that as it expands it cause less problems and helps instead. : )
So if someones knowledge is hurting them, then changing the direction to more healthier type of knowledge will eventually helps, in my humble view.

One of the ways to see there is a way to balance everything, just more simple to see it there.

[aeonrel]

Oh no no, not trying to be sarcastic. Apologies that it came out like that.

Interestingly, from my own personal experience with readings, support/resource problems tend to be mother-related more often than knowledge.

Waiting for some feedback from @rontron5k 

[Gmuli]

Oh no no, not trying to be sarcastic. Apologies that it came out like that.

Interestingly, from my own personal experience with readings, support/resource problems tend to be mother-related more often than knowledge.

Waiting for some feedback from @rontron5k 

My bad, is all good, I misunderstood, I guess. : )

About knowledge... Resource is always knowledge, one way or another, as far as I'm aware. And Earth Branches(Tombs etc.) are always thinking.
Problem is, people are not very aware of their inner processes, so if you ask them they, in most cases, can't tell you that. If you observer them you can see it, however. But to do that, have to know where to look from and that need entirely different sets of systems(neurolinguistics, behavior then language related, general semantics etc. so to know how to look etc).

Also that is why I avoid doing readings online last few years, as if the person know their inner working that well, they won't be needing to ask here. So the most important part of the feedback can be seen, but not received as reply in forum.

And I get that most people focusing on Five Arts does not see that as part of it. But if one does they can see 4 pillars are always perfectly mapping out their inner processes. And then their life is reflection of their inner processes and then it gets distorted, as not everything will be there to play 'its role'.

But that is just my humble view, who knows...
In any case, you are doing good work, can be difficult doing many readings in a forum, sometimes...

[aeonrel]

Yea, I agree.
While I use a different Bazi system, I became hyper-aware of my inner processes after learning Bazi.
And after some initial readings for friends and colleagues, I realise that getting the calculations right is just half or even less of the whole deal.
The bulk comes from mapping that to psychology, behavioral science, those kinds of stuff, so that we can develop a way forward.

As I expanded my experience here, I also start to see the challenges with neurolinguistics, general semantics, as you mentioned.

But I am trying to master Bazi, so repeated reading on myself and my circle of contacts only is limiting.
Hence, I am trying to tackle as many cases as I can here to practice.

[Gmuli]

A very nice idea!Well, good luck and if you think another point of view would be interesting in some case feel free to tag someone, and hopefully we can give alternative reading from the style we use. May not always be better, but at least will give more ways to see something haha : ) 

[Goldman]

February 2, 1987 16:59, Male.

Lately, I have have been dating a girl twice in the first half of August 2023 but seems like lately she is avoiding me when I directly ask her when she is free, we still talk through text message but I don’t really know what her intentions are.

Also work as been an extra pain this month.

Want to know what the masters see in my chart for the rest of this year in romance and career. Chart is attached too for convenience! Much thanks my morale is very low lately.

Hi Rontron

Your father seemed to be of much higher society but went downwards after you're born, but your family was at still mid-upper society despite the decline.
You're driven as early as your tertiary years. Generally, your lady luck is still very good so no need to rush.
There seemed to be challenges for 2nd half of 2022. Your work and relationship issue will have an outcome by next Saturday 9th September
Please take the best course of attitude and effort till then. I hope the outcome will be favorable.

Best,
Goldman

[rontron5k]

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On how to interpret your resource element decreasing your love luck - I do not have deep enough understanding of the Ten Gods to explain yet.
Because if we can understand that, we will be able to identify what is the characteristic flaw and change it.
But for now, I am still learning.
If you have any guess, maybe you can share and we can see if it makes sense to the chart.

What more do you need to learn about the 10 gods?Maybe we can help. We use wide variaty of gods.
I think in this case Resource may be his mother or knowledge(usually both, depending if his mother is around).
So like staying in comfort zone, coz what he knows makes him want to play it safe.
While at the same time his mother may not have been too enthusiastic for more risky, expanding inner ideas(Wu fire), so that left a trace.

Resource stends on the way of his Spouse Star in variaty of ways and sides with her when conflict arises, so what he wants seems to align with what he knows and influences of relatives, but he can't get to it, easily as every step that same knowledge is on the way(what will happen, how things will develop etc).
Also has Images of thinking, coz of other reasons, so has the idea there is 'painful' thinking process going on nearby him that is messing everything.

What can he do. Don't think as much or at least align it so its beneficial, meditations, etc.

My mother was quite protective when I was a child, sometimesnintrusive but overall the relationship was decent but with it’s own set of flaws. My older sister for sure has cause some childhood trauma as well which carried into adulthood to some extent. I see where this is going, basically events in my have shaped me who I am today. Not thinking so much and taking more initiative is key that I got in the last bit.

[Gmuli]

Hi.
A lot going on kinda missed that part. : )

I see where this is going, basically events in my have shaped me who I am today.

Not exactly : )
We kinda carry them with us, and can change them as well, its very complex to explain. But it is all now, its not from back then(back then is now as well). Its messy and doesn't matter, really, practically at least.

What can you do... Basically, just be fine with it. But to be fine with it has to understand it. So observe, your mother and what you know and how they interact with Spouse representations. If you argue about stuff, what side is your mother on, what does what you know tell you etc.

Its like... If someone learns that 50% + of marriages in most development countries end up in divorce. That knowledge may lead to them having doubts about marriage. So their knowledge, may stand in the way of them having meaningful relationship. And it shouldn't really, can have one without being married etc.

So how knowledge(what you know and how you see the world) interacts with your Spouse Star. And also how your mother or what was influenced by her interact with it.

That is all I think.  At least in my humble view.

[rontron5k]

February 2, 1987 16:59, Male.

Lately, I have have been dating a girl twice in the first half of August 2023 but seems like lately she is avoiding me when I directly ask her when she is free, we still talk through text message but I don’t really know what her intentions are.

Also work as been an extra pain this month.

Want to know what the masters see in my chart for the rest of this year in romance and career. Chart is attached too for convenience! Much thanks my morale is very low lately.

Hi Rontron

Your father seemed to be of much higher society but went downwards after you're born, but your family was at still mid-upper society despite the decline.
You're driven as early as your tertiary years. Generally, your lady luck is still very good so no need to rush.
There seemed to be challenges for 2nd half of 2022. Your work and relationship issue will have an outcome by next Saturday 9th September
Please take the best course of attitude and effort till then. I hope the outcome will be favorable.

Best,
Goldman

If you are talking about high society then all I know is that that was something my great grandfather achieved in his lifetime. However, during my grandfather’s time, all of that wealth was passed on to his numerous descendants and they pretty much just liquidated everything instead of continuing to maintain or expand the legacy.

In general, my parents were pretty poor but after 15 years or so of hardship, our family were approaching a comfortable middle class family status. However, during my tertiary years as you would call it, my dad started a business which did not do well so our family went into debt and we were forced to sell our home just to pay it off.

It is interesting that you say that I might have an outcome by September 10th. For work, I would say it will most likely continue to be challenging for many months to come. As for the romantic side, I did meet the lady that I have been dating and she did hint that she will come to a decision in these few days. This seems to be the outcome that you have mentioned. I feel she may take longer time than that but thanks for the help!