please help reading my chart

[bing]

When will I marry? Why does there seem to be drama whenever I plan for something else,

 is there a marriage in my future?

dob: 07 Oct, 1981 at 00:35 am
female, Bangkok Thailand

Thank you in advance for your reading!

[aeonrel]

Hi @bing ,

Your birth time is very close to the crossing from one day to the other, and Bangkok is also somewhere between GMT +7 and +7.5.

When I play around with either timing, your Bazi changes, which can totally change the reading outcomes.

Do you mind describing some significant events in your life over the past few years so the practitioners here can determine which chart is more accurate? Especially the drama you mentioned or relationship woes, so we can correlate + provide some answers at the same time.

[bing]

Hi.
I think my chart is the one for 7 Oct. I can make sure that it relates more to me. Could you please read that chart for me?

Thank you!

[Rapanui]

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[coldpillow]

Possible fake output follower with very strong hurting officer (HO): https://bazi-calculator.com/?licz=1&y=1981&m=10&d=7&h=00%3A34&g=0&l=0&s=1

To be considered lucky, there must be ample wealth element (water) in the natal chart or decade luck. So, you have water in the natal chart. That's good enough and you don't really need a spouse element.

If you insist, I guess your spouse must be rich for a lifetime with a big gap in age. Similar to the marriage of Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng.

This is Wendi's birth chart: https://bazi-calculator.com/?licz=1&y=1968&m=12&d=5&h=%3F&g=0&l=0&s=1

Looks familiar to your chart, no? Earth DM that goes after metal and water.

Wendi is a possible fake wealth follower. To be considered lucky, there must be ample output element in the chart. She got married when her HO was peaking from 1998-2018.

In comparison, your water element is located in hour pillar. So, this may indicate a (very) late marriage.

[aeonrel]

@Rapanui

Haha...yes, I know...but since she is born at the cusp, one can never be too sure....

[aeonrel]

@bing

Ok, 7th Oct it is.

With regards to relationship, I concur with @coldpillow on the potential for a late marriage, possibly very late.
The way I read Bazi is different.
Your affinity with opposite gender is wood, and the current Luck Pillar (2022) + future Luck Pillars (2042-2062) contains healthy wood luck.
But that is just affinity. I can't tell when a marriage is actually going to happen.
You just have to ride the luck when it is good and do your best.

Regarding drama...your chart suggest a few negatives that might be coming from within:

• Very strong hurting officer (3x Yin metals) - very outspoken, coupled with very weak support (Ding fire lost to Ren water in the stems, Wu fire lost to Zi water in the branches) - less considerate. This can rub off people the wrong way.
• Using traditional Bazi, the You-You metal in the branches refers to self-punishment. A little too impulsive and emotions fluctuates too easily.
• Using traditional Bazi, Zi-You also forms a destruction. Suggests obstacles in life which could refer to the dramas.

So if those are true, then perhaps some self-control might help improve interactions with people, including potential spouse.

[bing]

Possible fake output follower with very strong hurting officer (HO): https://bazi-calculator.com/?licz=1&y=1981&m=10&d=7&h=00%3A34&g=0&l=0&s=1

To be considered lucky, there must be ample wealth element (water) in the natal chart or decade luck. So, you have water in the natal chart. That's good enough and you don't really need a spouse element.

If you insist, I guess your spouse must be rich for a lifetime with a big gap in age. Similar to the marriage of Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng.

This is Wendi's birth chart: https://bazi-calculator.com/?licz=1&y=1968&m=12&d=5&h=%3F&g=0&l=0&s=1

Looks familiar to your chart, no? Earth DM that goes after metal and water.

Wendi is a possible fake wealth follower. To be considered lucky, there must be ample output element in the chart. She got married when her HO was peaking from 1998-2018.

In comparison, your water element is located in hour pillar. So, this may indicate a (very) late marriage.

 thank you  . I don’t know bazi, so I can’t see the similarity between my chart and Wendi Dang’s chart. Actually, it’s already too late for me to get married, so we can say that I have a late marriage even without a bazi reading.”

[bing]

@bing

Ok, 7th Oct it is.

With regards to relationship, I concur with @coldpillow on the potential for a late marriage, possibly very late.
The way I read Bazi is different.
Your affinity with opposite gender is wood, and the current Luck Pillar (2022) + future Luck Pillars (2042-2062) contains healthy wood luck.
But that is just affinity. I can't tell when a marriage is actually going to happen.
You just have to ride the luck when it is good and do your best.

Regarding drama...your chart suggest a few negatives that might be coming from within:

• Very strong hurting officer (3x Yin metals) - very outspoken, coupled with very weak support (Ding fire lost to Ren water in the stems, Wu fire lost to Zi water in the branches) - less considerate. This can rub off people the wrong way.
• Using traditional Bazi, the You-You metal in the branches refers to self-punishment. A little too impulsive and emotions fluctuates too easily.
• Using traditional Bazi, Zi-You also forms a destruction. Suggests obstacles in life which could refer to the dramas.

So if those are true, then perhaps some self-control might help improve interactions with people, including potential spouse.

Thank you. The drama is all caused by external factors that are completely beyond my control.

[coldpillow]

At least it's pretty clear to me that your chart prefers a very late marriage or unmarried life. So, I will sleep well if I were you because I am on the right path all this time. 

[bing]

At least it's pretty clear to me that your chart prefers a very late marriage or unmarried life. So, I will sleep well if I were you because I am on the right path all this time. 

Are you saying that water and metal are the elements that benefit me? I always assumed that fire and wood were the ones that helped me. In fact, I have been lucky in the years with water stems.


Could you please tell me when I will have good luck and bad luck?

[coldpillow]

Are you saying that water and metal are the elements that benefit me? I always assumed that fire and wood were the ones that helped me. In fact, I have been lucky in the years with water stems.

Could you please tell me when I will have good luck and bad luck?

In general, you should beware of hot and dry pillars. Especially when:
1. There's no water and metal.
2. They don't combine into metal/water and combine into fire/earth/wood.

Otherwise, they are all favorable to different levels. From so-so to impressive.

Hot pillars: 1998, 1999, 2006, 2014, 2015, 2018, 2026, 2027.

[bing]

Are you saying that water and metal are the elements that benefit me? I always assumed that fire and wood were the ones that helped me. In fact, I have been lucky in the years with water stems.

Could you please tell me when I will have good luck and bad luck?

In general, you should beware of hot and dry pillars. Especially when:
1. There's no water and metal.
2. They don't combine into metal/water and combine into fire/earth/wood.

Otherwise, they are all favorable to different levels. From so-so to impressive.

Hot pillars: 1998, 1999, 2006, 2014, 2015, 2018, 2026, 2027.

Thank you, this is actually the opposite of what I thought before. I assumed that fire, earth, and wood were my useful gods. Does this mean I will get worse as I get older, like in the LPs of Jia Chen and Yi Si when they are full of wood? What about the LPs Ren Yin and Gui Mao? They are also full of wood and fire, aren’t they?”

[coldpillow]

Jia Chen and Yi Si are still favorable because there's half water combo between Chen-Zi and metal combo between Chen-You/Si-You. Wood is only present at stem, where the energy is weaker because it has no branch/root and it's further weakened by metal combos.
 
Ren Yin and Gui Mao are closer to the unfavorable side. Wood energy is bigger at the branch. Stem/branch combos will strengthen wood or fire, while branch conflicts will weaken water and metal. You still have water stems, but the fortune feels smaller than misfortune.

[bing]

Jia Chen and Yi Si are still favorable because there's half water combo between Chen-Zi and metal combo between Chen-You/Si-You. Wood is only present at stem, where the energy is weaker because it has no branch/root and it's further weakened by metal combos.
 
Ren Yin and Gui Mao are closer to the unfavorable side. Wood energy is bigger at the branch. Stem/branch combos will strengthen wood or fire, while branch conflicts will weaken water and metal. You still have water stems, but the fortune feels smaller than misfortune.

Thank you very much. However, I think my chart is more likely to be a weak DM rather than a fake follower, because the Xin Chou LP was bad. Xin is metal and Chou combines with You to create metal, but that was not good for me. The Geng Zi LP was also not favorable.

Some positive things have happened to me in the recent years, so I suspect that my chart is a weak DM chart.