@Twilight ,
you may say that, but it was more like that she moved to "female" based, race based environment, somewhere where status different hit her hard, and gave her stress to survive and prove her wort it. It also lead to health issues in aug or sep 2005.
Not sure if this is the right way to read it, but due to more wood in 2004 and 2005 makes me think there people in her environment played a part.
i.e., for 2004, the stems give you Jia wood suppress Wu earth - People around her affecting her pursuits….but that only last for 1 year.
In the branches, LP Si fire combines with 2x Shen metal from main chart and AP - maybe strong forced structure from the status-inclined environment curbing her freedom to express, creating stress.
2005 and 2006 continue Si-Shen combine, though reduce to 1x Shen…but technically this combination should last the whole LP.
So if this was the root cause, I'm not sure how it played out before school in 2004.
I see Aug / Sep 2005 are metal months. Respiratory-related health issues?
its always like she feels more comfortable with males then females. in family even, she thinks father somehow understood her but for the mother she takes her only as "label" and nothing more. Her close friends are males and females even when she tried, were mean and selfish to her. yeah but her student circle of females is respectful to her.
If this has always been the case for her, then it could be due to the healthy Officer Shen metal in the branches, which is affinity with males.
Otherwise, I can't see why there is a suddenly improved relationship with males in 2006.
let me mention that her career life has different flavours. in 2010 she started as a teacher, but she continued with her interest as Designer, kept learning and worked on some freelance projects in parallel. in 2014, resigned from teaching and joined research and development project as a designer. in 2015, invested and bore a heavy loss. It started in 2015 but continue till 2016 and she quit in jul 2016. Lifted herself back again, solely focused on freelance and turned it in to self employment by hiring people under her. This design based freelance thing continuously is there since 2010 in parallel. In 2020, as she has to Nurse her mother, that "responsibility" was given to her, it was like picking up between the 2, "career or responsibility" as both need her 24/7. So she picked responsibility. but that gap prolonged to 2021 and there had been similar issues till now including her fathers death which did not let her focus on career.
2010 has healthy Direct Officer in AP stem, so that explains the start of employment.
Side lines should be due to her Indirect Wealth in main chart.
no travelled on 8th Dec
Oh, so close!
If we use Symbolic Stars, for Chou day branch, Hai must appear.
Before 7th Dec, it was a Hai month.
Explained above. In Aug 2020 she has to choose between responsibility and career, each required 24/7 focus. She has to choose "responsibility".
Actually, when 2020 AP stem Geng metal combines with LP Yi wood, if we take a step back, Geng as Officer means something that controls DM and Yi is DM. Typically we say Officer = job, but in this case it can be rationalized as the "responsibility", because it is also something that is controlling her.
You are right may be. Con in first glance even I was like someone with "Rat" can be a good match to her. and in fact she had people with "rat" in day pillars, but she say it can only be "timely romantic / sexual attractiveness" thing. She had one with Rat Horse Dragon combination, and was the same "taking advantage theme". She is mature and kind, stayed on giving end, and is never into "timely relationships". She demands a solid base for relationship which i guess Rats are reluctant to offer. (in her case)
Strictly speaking, based on classical Bazi, Zi can form a harm with her Wei, Zi can also combine with her Chou.
Isnt it like the Yi Mao should support the DM more? or is it that the clashes have more influence?
Yes it supports the DM more, but it also becomes exposed to risk like clashes and combines. When it suffers a clash/combination, the support flips over to a negative.
That's why some say it is better to have elements missing than to have them appear and be subjected to bad interactions.
Umm isn't this lack of female affinity goes in favour of the girl? 
She told me that the guy himself chose her and asked no shit, they talked for marriage, about marriage and want to pursue it. Isn't it possible that he could be "one women person"? If you say he is morally upright, may be she wanted it the most. you said Shen metal is her Direct Officer and creates the need to follow rules/orders/process. so may be she needs someone like it. Regarding romance, she said she herself is moody so she understands and sometimes the way this guy expresses his likeness for her, she said its enough to melt.
I put in on this post to ask someone, like even you said that she has such chart which "people take advantage of", can you see something like it here too? and if you say it is the affinity in "her" chart itself that people take advantage of her, this means that no matter who she choose as partner will be the same. the rockiness of marriage is in her chart that whoever it is it wont matter. right? no matter what combination what element is there in other persons chart. is it so?
They never met, its been 2 years, every time theres some external factor which doesn't let them meet. why it could be so? and is there anything that can be done about it? how long will that keep happening?
Lack of female affinity generally means not so great with the ladies.
Opposite of a Casanova.
Yes, great for female spouse when he is attached because lesser chance of him able to fool around with other women, because he has no game.
But as a female spouse, sometimes you would also like your husband to be romantic to you….but still, the guy has no game.
So, up to her really.
If she doesn't need the romantic part and only wants someone straight as an arrow, he's the man.
I don't think this guy will take advantage, cause it seems like he has rather strong morals.
The conflicting nature, if married, I think will come true because:
- For her chart, DM wood sits on earth. Wood suppresses earth, earth is spouse here. She will dominate her spouse.
- For his chart, DM water sits on earth. Earth suppresses water, earth is spouse here. His spouse will dominate him.
Personality-wise makes sense too.
She is smart (many wealth elements in chart), she will know how to work her partner.
He doesn't have much wealth and is rigid. Will be susceptible to manipulation.
Maybe it won't play out in a rocky manner, but very likely there will be a dominating scenario.
Not meeting for 2 years….hard to tell from Bazi.
I suggest Qi Men Dun Jia to divine this answer.
She doesn't want a 100% smooth life. who even would desire so? from her life she want it something where she can grow like she is being designed to grow, an environment where she gets some support and someone to get back to. All for her she wants is to be an entrepreneur and she want to do something that her work speaks for her. something good for the society which the society could remember her for.
I thought when you asked if she will find relief in this tough life, you meant when there will be a period in her life where there isn't some elemental clash/harm/punishment/combination/etc., which there isn't for the LPs until 2059.
It's different if you are asking if she will find success in her entrepreneurship.
umm favourable elements for next few years? something that even could help me to analyse and calculate so that i could guide her with my limited knowledge later. I am a learner only and her chart is a bit difficult for me to understand, its kind of a"transformative" chart for me and i don't know how to explain. but everything here like i said for "rats", it must work for it, but then i realised if she is a "grass" or "small plant" she only needs a lil water from top and a good levels of water under her, to grow naturally. Excess water like "rat could wast it away. and it happened so, she faced health issues in 2020, stress in 2022 which continued till 2023 and right now after OCT "a heavy stress" giving output, She now wants to focus on her real self, her passions and interests.
Actually, I thought about this…be it classical Bazi or the school I use…even knowing what are the favourable elements every year, how is she going use that information?
We can't change the elements coming in year after year, so it makes more sense to do a reading for whichever period you are interested in, rather than find out the favourable elements, because it's down to how we respond to the changing elements.
what can be done about it? can it work like introducing some friend with "Fire"? Because waiting for Fire pillars and seasons will introduce more stress in her.
Anyway to get rif of it?
For me, the Shen metal represents the order in her life and it is very strong due to the vast number of earths growing it.
So to shed its energy, we need water.
You mentioned water will destabilize the DM, which I think philosophically plays out correctly, because she has no water in main chart, hence water-related areas of life is difficult for her to play out, and this hardship can also mean the destabilization.
In Bazi, it is not easy to find one perfect elemental solution for every situation - you fix one thing, something else might become imbalance….choose your poison
I want to ask something here, I don't know much but i have read through some case famous chart case studies available that after marriage, the charts starts to work as "one" too. pillars in one start effecting pillars in other too. whats missing in one starts filling the other too. so if even we say that these both charts are weak charts cant they be some good after merging and working together? aren't they not capable of working together as well? He got a fire combination, and being water, flowing towards wood and nurturing her up wont benefit him? water has to follow the downwards path anyways. Is he rigit enough not to flow in woods direction? she doesn't need all she just needs a lil of it? cant they relocate to some "Hot" area to fix some "fire" they miss. I know nothing about Bazi but just asking something out of curiosity.
one more thing. she is a "Pioneer" structure and he is the performer. She is wishing to be entrepreneur and He wants to be famous, given up on his some creative skills due to circumstances. Life has been hard to them both. Cant they both work their paths together? cant life get a lil easier for both but working together? any upcoming season, annual pillar, or luck supporting togetherness for good?
Sorry, I can't help with this because most of this is classical Bazi and I don't read charts this way.
Can't they both work their paths together? Sure, why not? It's up to individual to choose.
Can't life get easier for both by working together? Depends on each individual's chart.
For me, to remain together, just watch out for times when any Direct Officer is injured/combined and for him, just watch out for times when any Direct Wealth is injured/combined.
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