People Say My Kid Has Not-So-Good Future

[William]

My daughter was born in January 18, 2012, at 2 am Jakarta time.

Someone told me that:
- she won't get along with her husband
- she's advised NOT to have kids as her kids will be 'defected or lacking'
-she'll have to work hard only to earn little.

Of course, no parents would be happy to know that their kids will suffer like this. But we can't change our destiny either.
Anyone can give some insight about her future?
Thank you so much in advance🙏

[coldpillow]

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[William]

@coldpillow
Thank you so much for your insight.
What you say is the same as what others have said about her, esp that she has to work hard only to earn little.

Since she was a child, she gets angry very easily, even when I intend to be humorous, she'll pick it the wrong way & she explodes furiously. She's also very stubborn. If she does something wrong & I try to correct her, she won't listen & does anything as she's pleased.

But so far she's been doing quite good in school. Very rarely gets bad marks in school.

She's addicted to online game & youtube. She even wants to skip study tour with school only that she can play online game from morning to late at night every day.

She does not have close friends.

She's a big spender. I teach her to save money, but again, she does not listen. Instead, she'll be furious if I tell her not to buy unnecessary things saying that it is her money & can do anything with her money & to mind my own business. Finally I give up as I'm tired of fighting with her.

What worries me the most is that IF she has kids, her kids will be defected/disabled/lacking. She's said to me twice that she does not want to have kids. But what if her husband wants some?

Thank you again for your insight

[ren]

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[smsek]

### Corrected Bazi Chart Analysis
If the daughter was born on **January 18, 2012, at 2:00 AM** in Jakarta, and we adjust for true solar time, her **Hour Pillar** changes to **寅时 (Tiger Hour)**. This results in the following corrected pillars:

- **Year Pillar:** 辛卯 (Yin Metal over Yin Wood)
- **Month Pillar:** 辛丑 (Yin Metal over Yin Earth)
- **Day Pillar:** 戊寅 (Yang Earth over Yang Wood)
- **Hour Pillar:** 甲寅 (Yang Wood over Yang Wood)

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### Bazi Chart Analysis

#### 1. **Day Master (戊 Earth):**
- The Day Master is **Yang Earth (戊)**, representing mountains or strong, stable earth. This indicates traits such as stability, dependability, and resilience. However, her chart shows an abundance of Wood (寅, 卯), which controls Earth, putting her Day Master under significant pressure and making it relatively weak.

#### 2. **Strength of Day Master:**
- **Favorable elements:** Fire (印星, Resource Star) and Earth (比劫, Self Star) help to strengthen her Day Master.
- **Unfavorable elements:** Wood (克, Controlling Star) and Water (生木, Supporting Wood) are unfavorable as they drain or weaken her Day Master.

#### 3. **Marriage Palace (寅 Wood):**
- The **Marriage Palace (Day Branch 寅)** represents her marital relationships. It shows strong Wood energy, which controls her weak Day Master (Earth). This suggests that marital relationships may bring some challenges, particularly due to power struggles or misaligned expectations. However, with mutual understanding and communication, these challenges can be managed.

#### 4. **Children Palace (寅 Wood):**
- The **Children Palace (Hour Branch 寅)** is also represented by Wood. While Wood energy can indicate lively and dynamic children, it also creates pressure on the weak Day Master, suggesting that raising children might require additional effort and patience. However, there is no indication that her children would have inherent "defects" or issues.

#### 5. **Wealth and Career:**
- **Wealth (Water - 财星):**
  - Her wealth element (Water, represented by 壬 in 寅) is present but buried, indicating that financial success requires effort and perseverance. Her chart suggests she will not easily accumulate wealth, but consistent, practical efforts will lead to stability over time.
- **Career:**
  - With the **Month Stem (辛 Metal)** acting as her Output Star (食神), she has creativity and the ability to express herself. She is suited for fields that involve creativity, design, education, or strategic planning.

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### Responses to Specific Concerns:

1. **"She won't get along with her husband":**
   - The Marriage Palace (寅) does indicate potential challenges due to the strong Wood energy, which controls her Day Master. This could result in power dynamics or disagreements within a relationship. However, these are not insurmountable issues. With emotional maturity and mutual respect, she can have a fulfilling marriage.

2. **"She is advised NOT to have kids as her kids will be 'defected or lacking'":**
   - There is no indication in her chart that her children would have "defects" or inherent issues. The strong Wood in her Children Palace suggests that her children will be energetic and independent. However, she may need to invest more time and effort in nurturing and guiding them.

3. **"She'll have to work hard only to earn little":**
   - Her chart does show challenges in accumulating wealth, as her wealth element (Water) is not prominent. However, her creativity (Metal, 食神) gives her the potential to succeed in fields that reward innovation and expression. Consistent effort and careful planning can lead to financial stability over time.

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### Recommendations to Enhance Her Life:

1. **Strengthen Favorable Elements (Fire and Earth):**
   - Encourage her to engage in activities related to Fire and Earth, such as arts, public speaking, or gardening.
   - Use colors like red, orange, yellow, and brown in her environment or wardrobe to enhance Fire and Earth energies.
   - Create a warm and stable environment at home, avoiding excess exposure to Wood or Water elements.

2. **Career Development:**
   - Guide her toward careers involving Fire or Earth elements, such as education, counseling, design, or culinary arts, which align with her favorable elements.

3. **Marriage Guidance:**
   - Encourage her to seek partners who are supportive and understanding, rather than overly controlling. Communication and compromise will be key to harmonious relationships.

4. **Parenting Support:**
   - If she becomes a parent, fostering open communication with her children and teaching them self-discipline will help nurture a positive relationship.

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### Conclusion:
While her chart shows some challenges, these are not fixed outcomes. With proper guidance, a supportive environment, and the right choices, she can lead a fulfilling and successful life. Encourage her to focus on her strengths and use her creativity and resilience to overcome obstacles.

[William]

@smsek
Thank you so much for your insight, I really appreciate it.

So to conclude, the favorable elements are fire & earth, and, the unfavorable elements are metal & water?

[William]

@ren
I'm actually a woman, born in Jakarta, June 11' 1973, at 8:30 am.

Thank you for your time and effort.

[ren]

Hey All,

I think the hour pillar should be Gui Chou. I don't believe the hour move an hour to Jia Yin.
A Jia Yin pillar my lead to chaotic thoughs & thinking.

William, does your daughter show a flair for creative stuff?

Thanks

ren

[William]

@ren

Dear @ren,

Thank you so much for your time & effort to analyze my daughter's DOB.

I don't know if this is considered creativity, but she's very good at drawing & making sketches. But other than that, she doesn't show any other signs of creativity.

But to tell u the truth, I'm far more creative than her though I'm not good at drawing .

[smsek]

@smsek
Thank you so much for your insight, I really appreciate it.

So to conclude, the favorable elements are fire & earth, and, the unfavorable elements are metal & water?

==>Not exactly. Let’s clarify her favorable and unfavorable elements based on her **Bazi chart**:

### **Her Favorable and Unfavorable Elements:**

#### **Favorable Elements:**
1. **Fire (火):**
   - Fire is her **Resource Star (印星)** and supports her weak **Day Master (戊 Earth)** by strengthening it.
   - Fire also weakens the strong Wood (寅, 卯), which is a controlling force on her Day Master.
   - Fire brings warmth and balance to her chart.

2. **Earth (土):**
   - Earth is her **Self Star (比劫)**, which directly strengthens her weak Day Master.
   - Earth absorbs excess Wood energy, helping her stabilize her life and reduce external pressure.

#### **Unfavorable Elements:**
1. **Wood (木):**
   - Wood is her **Controlling Star (官杀)** and strongly dominates her Day Master, creating pressure and challenges.
   - The abundance of Wood in her chart (寅, 卯) indicates that Wood is already overwhelming and thus unfavorable.

2. **Water (水):**
   - Water is her **Wealth Star (财星)** and produces more Wood, making the Wood energy even stronger. This creates more pressure on her already weak Day Master.
   - Water indirectly contributes to her challenges in maintaining balance and stability.

#### **Neutral Element:**
- **Metal (金):**
   - Metal is her **Output Star (食伤)**. While it does not directly harm her Day Master, it drains her energy by producing Water, which fuels the unfavorable Wood.
   - Metal is neither strongly favorable nor strongly unfavorable but must be used carefully in combination with other elements.

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### **Summary:**
- **Favorable Elements:** Fire (火), Earth (土)
- **Unfavorable Elements:** Wood (木), Water (水)
- **Neutral Element:** Metal (金)

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### Recommendations Based on Favorable Elements:
1. **Focus on Fire and Earth in Activities and Environment:**
   - Encourage activities related to Fire, such as cooking, arts, or working in warm climates.
   - Incorporate Earth-related activities like gardening, pottery, or spending time in nature.

2. **Minimize Exposure to Strong Wood and Water Energies:**
   - Avoid excessive green or blue surroundings (representing Wood and Water).
   - Minimize environments that are excessively cold or damp, as they represent Water energy.

3. **Metal Should Be Used Moderately:**
   - While Metal can bring creativity and expression, too much Metal producing Water may exacerbate her challenges.

By understanding the role of these elements in her chart, she can focus on cultivating a balanced and harmonious life.

[JLim (Darma W)]

### Corrected Bazi Chart Analysis
If the daughter was born on **January 18, 2012, at 2:00 AM** in Jakarta, and we adjust for true solar time, her **Hour Pillar** changes to **寅时 (Tiger Hour)**. This results in the following corrected pillars:

I was born in Jakarta, too.  This is not right.  Why adjusted to Tiger Hour? 

https://bazi-calculator.com/?licz=1&n=William+-+daughter&y=2012&m=1&d=18&h=2%3A00&g=0&l=-0.1276&lon=51.5072&s=1&city1=-0.1276%7CLondon%2C+UK

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[William]

@JLim (Darma W) :
Thank you so very much for your time & effort to clarify this. I truly appreciate this.

@coldpillow
I have no idea about her father's DOB as I adopted her as a baby, and I never get in contact anymore with her biological parents & I'm a single parent myself.

[William]

### Corrected Bazi Chart Analysis
If the daughter was born on **January 18, 2012, at 2:00 AM** in Jakarta, and we adjust for true solar time, her **Hour Pillar** changes to **寅时 (Tiger Hour)**. This results in the following corrected pillars:

I was born in Jakarta, too.  This is not right.  Why adjusted to Tiger Hour? 

https://bazi-calculator.com/?licz=1&n=William+-+daughter&y=2012&m=1&d=18&h=2%3A00&g=0&l=-0.1276&lon=51.5072&s=1&city1=-0.1276%7CLondon%2C+UK

@JLim (Darma W) : So could you please kindly advise her favorable and unfavorable elements?