Are we compatible? Rat Male and Rabbit Female

[Marlisakurniaty]

Hi 
I would like to know if i am (female 5 March 1985 born 6.50 AM) compatible with this male (5 June 1983 around 5 AM) or not. I will be glad if there are any help from you to explain this relationship from fengshui or bazi perspectives or else.

Btw, I am so afraid wasting my time in a wrong relationship 

thank you before.
regards, marlisa.

[Spiritsfan]

Hi 
I would like to know if i am (female 5 March 1985 born 6.50 AM) compatible with this male (5 June 1983 around 5 AM) or not. I will be glad if there are any help from you to explain this relationship from fengshui or bazi perspectives or else.

Btw, I am so afraid wasting my time in a wrong relationship 

thank you before.
regards, marlisa.

Hi. Need place of birth. Both.

[Marlisakurniaty]

female 5 March 1985 born 6.50 AM - Jakarta, Indonesia
male 5 June 1983 around 5 AM - Duri, Riau, Indonesia

He is soft spoken person. i think his love language is words of affirmation and act of service.

Hi 
I would like to know if i am (female 5 March 1985 born 6.50 AM) compatible with this male (5 June 1983 around 5 AM) or not. I will be glad if there are any help from you to explain this relationship from fengshui or bazi perspectives or else.

Btw, I am so afraid wasting my time in a wrong relationship 

thank you before.
regards, marlisa.

Hi. Need place of birth. Both.

[smsek]

see my AI reply ===>In Bazi analysis for compatibility, we look at how each person's elements interact and whether their charts support harmonious relationships. Here’s a detailed breakdown of compatibility based on your Bazi information, using a Bazi and elemental interaction approach:

### 1. **Elemental Compatibility**
   - **Female Chart**: The Day Master (DM) is 癸水 (Gui Water) with a strong presence of Wood (卯卯寅) and Earth (丑), which highlights Water and Wood influences, suggesting a need for Fire and Metal to balance.
   - **Male Chart**: The Day Master (DM) is 甲木 (Jia Wood), and his chart is dominated by Wood (卯子巳), Water (亥), and Fire (巳). This chart has abundant Wood and Fire with a need for Water and Metal to balance.

### 2. **Yin-Yang and Day Master Relationship**
   - **Gui Water (癸) Female**: This Water Day Master typically values nurturing and adaptability, with a need for support and understanding.
   - **Jia Wood (甲) Male**: Jia Wood signifies strength, growth, and resilience. Jia Wood Day Masters often seek stability and grounding, appreciating partners who are flexible and supportive.

   Water (癸) nourishes Wood (甲), suggesting that the female's presence can strengthen and support the male partner. However, without Fire in the female chart, there may be an imbalance in her capacity to fully complement his Wood energy unless it is moderated by compatible Luck Pillars or environmental influences.

### 3. **Interaction of Key Elements**
   - **Water and Wood**: Water (from the female) feeds Wood (the male’s dominant element), which can create a supportive and nurturing relationship. However, there’s potential for the female partner to feel drained, as too much Wood could weaken her Water.
   - **Fire in Male Chart**: The male's chart has Fire, especially during certain Luck Pillars. Fire is beneficial to both, as it tempers the Water-Wood dynamic, which can enhance the warmth in their relationship.

### 4. **Current and Future Luck Pillars**
   - **Female (壬午 Luck Pillar, age 31-41)**: This pillar brings in both Fire and Water elements. Fire is helpful to balance the excess Wood in the relationship and offers warmth and affection.
   - **Male (癸丑 Luck Pillar, age 40-50)**: This Luck Pillar has both Earth and Water, stabilizing and grounding his Wood energy while also offering some support to the female’s Water element.

### 5. **Potential Challenges**
   - The female partner’s Wood elements may be overpowered if not balanced by sufficient Fire or Metal, potentially causing a feeling of being overrun by the male's Wood energy.
   - In the long run, if the relationship does not provide the needed Fire element for mutual growth, it may feel imbalanced, with the female feeling underappreciated or overshadowed.

### 6. **Suggestions for Balance and Harmony**
   - **Incorporate Feng Shui**: Since both of you benefit from Metal and Fire, enhancing these in your living environment—such as Metal decor (e.g., circular shapes, metallic colors) and Fire elements (e.g., warmer lighting, red or orange accents)—could help balance the energies between you.
   - **Communication and Support**: As a Water Day Master, you may feel the need for emotional support, while he, as a Wood Day Master, may need stability. Understanding these core needs can make a big difference.
   - **Timing and Patience**: With careful consideration and mutual effort, both of you can enhance each other's strengths if you're open to adjusting your relationship dynamic over time.

### Conclusion
Your relationship has foundational compatibility, especially with the Water-Wood dynamic that suggests mutual support. However, to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained, it’s essential to cultivate a balanced dynamic that nurtures Fire (passion, motivation) and Metal (clarity, structure) energies.

If you can foster an environment that nurtures both partners' needs, the relationship holds promise. However, keep monitoring how balanced you feel, as this will indicate if the relationship is progressing healthily.

[smsek]

PART 2===>Let's analyze the favorable elements for both charts to determine if they complement each other and support a balanced relationship.

### Summary of Each Person’s Favorable Elements

1. **Female (Gui Water, 癸) - Born March 5, 1985, at 6:50 AM**
   - **Favorable Elements**: Metal and Fire, which bring balance by controlling the strong Wood and Earth presence in her chart.
   - **Unfavorable Elements**: Excess Wood and Earth can be draining, as they weaken her Water and make her chart unbalanced.

2. **Male (Jia Wood, 甲) - Born June 5, 1983, around 5:00 AM**
   - **Favorable Elements**: Water and Metal, as Water nurtures his Wood Day Master and Metal adds needed structure and control.
   - **Unfavorable Elements**: Excess Fire can be challenging for him, as it consumes his Wood energy, and too much Earth may also destabilize his Wood.

### Do Their Favorable Elements Supplement Each Other?

- **Metal**: Both charts benefit from Metal. Metal provides structure and clarity, helping both partners bring stability and balance to their respective strengths. The female chart especially needs Metal to balance her Water, while Metal also strengthens the male's Wood by providing the needed control.
 
- **Fire**: The female’s chart favors Fire, which helps control her strong Wood and Earth. Fire is neutral for the male chart but offers warmth and harmony in the relationship, especially beneficial in emotional and relational dynamics. While the male does not require as much Fire, its presence is generally supportive.

- **Water**: The male’s chart benefits from Water, as it strengthens his Wood Day Master. The female partner’s Day Master is also Water, naturally offering supportive energy. However, she has to be cautious as too much Water may drain her without enough Metal and Fire support.

- **Earth**: Earth is generally not favorable for either chart, as it can overburden the female's Water and potentially block the male’s Wood. Both need to keep Earth balanced to avoid stagnation.

### Complementary Dynamics

1. **Supportive Water-to-Wood Relationship**: The female’s Water Day Master (癸) supports the male’s Wood Day Master (甲), indicating natural harmony where she can provide nurturing support. However, over time, the female may need replenishing from Metal or Fire to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
 
2. **Fire as a Harmonizing Element**: Since Fire is favorable for the female and neutral for the male, it acts as a harmonizing element that can add passion and warmth. This shared benefit suggests that they can create an environment where Fire is encouraged, helping balance their relationship.

3. **Metal as a Shared Favorable Element**: Both benefit from Metal, suggesting that they can incorporate Metal influences in their lives together, creating a shared goal and stabilizing their dynamic. Metal enhances clarity, communication, and structure, all of which can strengthen the foundation of their relationship.

### Conclusion

Their favorable elements do supplement each other well:
   - **Water and Metal** provide mutual benefits that help each other grow.
   - **Fire** introduces balance, especially supporting the female's chart, while creating warmth for both.
   
In summary, the Bazi elements in each chart align well to create a mutually supportive environment, with Metal and Fire offering the most significant potential for a harmonious relationship. As long as they balance Earth and manage excess Wood, their elements complement each other well.

[Marlisakurniaty]

Thank you so much. May I ask if my chart is one of Follower Son?
If my chart is Following Son, does it change the whole reading or i can still use your description to maintain my relationship?

see my AI reply ===>In Bazi analysis for compatibility, we look at how each person's elements interact and whether their charts support harmonious relationships. Here’s a detailed breakdown of compatibility based on your Bazi information, using a Bazi and elemental interaction approach:

### 1. **Elemental Compatibility**
   - **Female Chart**: The Day Master (DM) is 癸水 (Gui Water) with a strong presence of Wood (卯卯寅) and Earth (丑), which highlights Water and Wood influences, suggesting a need for Fire and Metal to balance.
   - **Male Chart**: The Day Master (DM) is 甲木 (Jia Wood), and his chart is dominated by Wood (卯子巳), Water (亥), and Fire (巳). This chart has abundant Wood and Fire with a need for Water and Metal to balance.

### 2. **Yin-Yang and Day Master Relationship**
   - **Gui Water (癸) Female**: This Water Day Master typically values nurturing and adaptability, with a need for support and understanding.
   - **Jia Wood (甲) Male**: Jia Wood signifies strength, growth, and resilience. Jia Wood Day Masters often seek stability and grounding, appreciating partners who are flexible and supportive.

   Water (癸) nourishes Wood (甲), suggesting that the female's presence can strengthen and support the male partner. However, without Fire in the female chart, there may be an imbalance in her capacity to fully complement his Wood energy unless it is moderated by compatible Luck Pillars or environmental influences.

### 3. **Interaction of Key Elements**
   - **Water and Wood**: Water (from the female) feeds Wood (the male’s dominant element), which can create a supportive and nurturing relationship. However, there’s potential for the female partner to feel drained, as too much Wood could weaken her Water.
   - **Fire in Male Chart**: The male's chart has Fire, especially during certain Luck Pillars. Fire is beneficial to both, as it tempers the Water-Wood dynamic, which can enhance the warmth in their relationship.

### 4. **Current and Future Luck Pillars**
   - **Female (壬午 Luck Pillar, age 31-41)**: This pillar brings in both Fire and Water elements. Fire is helpful to balance the excess Wood in the relationship and offers warmth and affection.
   - **Male (癸丑 Luck Pillar, age 40-50)**: This Luck Pillar has both Earth and Water, stabilizing and grounding his Wood energy while also offering some support to the female’s Water element.

### 5. **Potential Challenges**
   - The female partner’s Wood elements may be overpowered if not balanced by sufficient Fire or Metal, potentially causing a feeling of being overrun by the male's Wood energy.
   - In the long run, if the relationship does not provide the needed Fire element for mutual growth, it may feel imbalanced, with the female feeling underappreciated or overshadowed.

### 6. **Suggestions for Balance and Harmony**
   - **Incorporate Feng Shui**: Since both of you benefit from Metal and Fire, enhancing these in your living environment—such as Metal decor (e.g., circular shapes, metallic colors) and Fire elements (e.g., warmer lighting, red or orange accents)—could help balance the energies between you.
   - **Communication and Support**: As a Water Day Master, you may feel the need for emotional support, while he, as a Wood Day Master, may need stability. Understanding these core needs can make a big difference.
   - **Timing and Patience**: With careful consideration and mutual effort, both of you can enhance each other's strengths if you're open to adjusting your relationship dynamic over time.

### Conclusion
Your relationship has foundational compatibility, especially with the Water-Wood dynamic that suggests mutual support. However, to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained, it’s essential to cultivate a balanced dynamic that nurtures Fire (passion, motivation) and Metal (clarity, structure) energies.

If you can foster an environment that nurtures both partners' needs, the relationship holds promise. However, keep monitoring how balanced you feel, as this will indicate if the relationship is progressing healthily.

[smsek]

see my AI reply ===>You're absolutely correct in your observation. Given that her **Gui Water (癸)** Day Master has a root in the Year Earthly Branch **Ox (丑)**, her chart is unlikely to qualify as a "Follower (Cong) Son" chart type.

A Follower (Cong) chart occurs when the Day Master is exceptionally weak, with no root in any of the branches or stems, and is surrounded by elements that overwhelm it to the point where it “surrenders” and “follows” the dominant energy. However, in her case:

1. **Gui Water’s Root in Ox**: The presence of **Gui Water (癸)** in the **Ox (丑)** branch indicates a stable root, meaning her Day Master has some support. This root is generally enough to prevent the chart from being classified as a Follower type.
2. **Strong Wood and Earth Elements**: While her chart does have a strong Wood (卯) and Earth (丑) presence, these do not overwhelm her Day Master to the degree required for a Follower chart, as the root in **Ox (丑)** provides her with the necessary anchor.

### Does This Change the Reading?

Since her chart is not a Follower type, the original analysis remains relevant. The favorable elements of **Metal and Fire** continue to support her chart by controlling excess Wood and Earth, while **Water** and **Metal** provide balance in the relationship.

If her chart were a true Follower type, it would indeed change the reading significantly. In a Follower Son chart, we would consider only the dominant elements, adjusting her relationship compatibility based on that overwhelming influence. But as it stands, her chart maintains a regular Day Master with balanced favorable elements, so the initial interpretation remains accurate and applicable to her relationship analysis.

[coldpillow]

May I ask if my chart is one of Follower Son?

It could still qualify as a fake follower. Not a true one, because of Chou in year pillar.

As a fake follower, you should be doing well in life so far.

Otherwise, it's an extremely weak chart. A miserable life.

[Spiritsfan]

Hi 
I would like to know if i am (female 5 March 1985 born 6.50 AM) compatible with this male (5 June 1983 around 5 AM) or not. I will be glad if there are any help from you to explain this relationship from fengshui or bazi perspectives or else.

Btw, I am so afraid wasting my time in a wrong relationship 

thank you before.
regards, marlisa.

Hello.

This is some kind of joke or test. The man is very bad at accumulating wealth. And at the same time he is extremely willful. The woman is successful and can accumulate a lot of wealth. As an option for a woman to close her karmic debts - very good. Only in this aspect can such a long-term union be considered.

[ren]

Hello Marlisakurniaty,

How has your relationship luck been the last few years?

Thanks,

         
ren

[Marlisakurniaty]

i usually meet a guy who is lower than me on wealth  actually i am not a rich person. i am an employee in a small company now.

[Marlisakurniaty]

will i get a chance to live a good love-life?

May I ask if my chart is one of Follower Son?

It could still qualify as a fake follower. Not a true one, because of Chou in year pillar.

As a fake follower, you should be doing well in life so far.

Otherwise, it's an extremely weak chart. A miserable life.

[Marlisakurniaty]

i dont understand if people said that i came from a rich family or i am having good wealth or i am good in accumulating wealth...

my life so far, i used to live in a very independent person mode. my parents are not a typical who love to give comfort for their daughters. i have to work hard to gain money. and still have difficulties on selling products. i feel hard being entrepreneur because lack of money for starting business.

i have to feed my kids and parent (sandwich generation). my parents wealth is average, but they expect me to give them money as i am their ATM machine (i feel this way).

i have no freedom to use my wealth.

Hi 
I would like to know if i am (female 5 March 1985 born 6.50 AM) compatible with this male (5 June 1983 around 5 AM) or not. I will be glad if there are any help from you to explain this relationship from fengshui or bazi perspectives or else.

Btw, I am so afraid wasting my time in a wrong relationship 

thank you before.
regards, marlisa.

Hello.

This is some kind of joke or test. The man is very bad at accumulating wealth. And at the same time he is extremely willful. The woman is successful and can accumulate a lot of wealth. As an option for a woman to close her karmic debts - very good. Only in this aspect can such a long-term union be considered.

[coldpillow]

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[Marlisakurniaty]

Thank you so much, that’s deep

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will I get a chance to live a good love-life?
 

IMO, you will have another chance in your mid 40s and mid 60s. I think the better one is mid 60s, very late indeed.

There must be a good reason why you're fated to stick with your parents. From my perspective, you're supposed to give and share. The more you try to enjoy your wealth all by yourself, the more you would feel hurt and lonely. It's simple. Life tries to teach you to be generous, not selfish.

Lose first, win later.
Spend money first, earn money later.
Lose/sell a home first, get/buy a home later.
Lose a parent first, get married later. ---> In the case of Bill Gates, it's the opposite. Got married first in January 1994, lost his mother in June 1994. But you get the idea of losing and gaining.

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Your natal chart lacks fire (wealth element), which determines how lucky that chart as a fake follow son. You can read more explanation here: https://treybazi.blogspot.com/2018/01/chart-structure-ditiansui-follow-output.html

But you do get fire from decade LP, so I guess you still have fairly good progress even if you're still far from your goals.